There’s some serious holiday Grindr drama happening over on the latest episode of Discretion Advised!
During the show’s recent Q & Gay segment that had fans calling in to ask hosts Marc MacNamara and John Hill questions, one listener unloaded a possibly controversial situation that dealt with them seeing their girlfriend’s straight husband on the popular gay dating app.
“So I’m home for the holidays, so obviously I got rid of my photo on Grindr,” says the fans in a voice memo. “I got a picture from my best friend’s husband – who I guess is gay, even though he’s married to a woman. So do I tell him that it’s me, so he stops and gets off the app or do I tell her? I don’t know what to do.”
When this podcast clip made its way to TikTok, fans were divided with some saying to tell the friend that her husband is trolling for dick on Grindr with others commenting that it’s never okay to out someone – even in situations like these. The two podcast hosts were even unsure of what to do with this, but ultimately decided that it would probably be best to tell the friend or tell the husband that they should come clean to their wife. Take a listen below to the full call below and decide for yourself:
@discadpod Some holiday Grindr drama 👀👀 #gaytiktok #discadpod #podcast #CODSquadUp #ReasonForBooking ♬ original sound – Discretion Advised Podcast
What do you think about this situation? Would you tell your girlfriend? Would you just leave it be? Would you bang the closeted husband? Let us know all your hot thoughts on this messy situation in the comments below and if you want to hear even more from this segment, be sure to catch this entire episode of Discretion Advised over on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and on YouTube.
I would tell her everything. Most bisexual men I know are serial cheaters. Wives are always the last to know. A lot of hypocrisy. I would say everything.
How badly were you beaten up in school?
Too many people mind everybody’s business but their own. Being a yenta ( a yiddish word for oan old nosy jewish women) achieves little to nothing.
What would be the point of telling her? To stir up more drama? She’ll find out eventually. It’s none of your business really… unless you want him for yourself hahah.
maybe this guy has a sexual fantasy about his friends husband the coach
I would meet him and see what he has to say
I’ve never been on Grindr.
It is none of your concern, full stop.
IF he trys to initiate a hook up then just let him know you know his wife and won’t say anything but maybe he should.
Okay. This is just sad. They could have an open bisexual relationship. You don’t know. It’s not important for you to know or get involved.
Gays clinging to archaic ideas of “cheating” which were formed back when women were chattel have no bearing on modern realities.
Stop being drama queens. Focus on your own relationships.
Well that is the adult thing to do.
I’d leave it alone — why get involved in something so messy? If she finds out, it will be on her own. Leave it alone.
I could if I was a mean and spiteful person. But I know in time, he will come to regret himself. Someone close to him will see him and his cheating ways.
By the way the guy is a coach for little league and teen boys. Goes cruising for dick and ass when he coaching on the road.
and theres coaches out there cruising for women too makes no difference if guy or girl, i’d stay far away from this
And your point is..?
Bi here and in an open marriage.
Happily married to a woman. And active on Grindr with her full knowledge for casual fun. I keep it discreet usually just to avoid annoying questions, like the one asked by this caller.
Gay men are in open relationships all the time and it’s largely considered NBD by the community. So why if a straight or bi couple is in the same boat is it suddenly time for outrage, clutching pearls, and automatic “cheating” accusations?
The wife might well know, and bringing this up is only going to embarrass her. Stay out of it.
YES! THIS! 100% THIS!
There is a problem in the LGBT community where they G doesn’t seem to accept the B part of the community. This profound lack of sexual understanding after usually facing sexual misunderstanding from their own families and formative communities is unimaginably stupid. Just. Fucking. Stupid.
Polygamous, bisexual, open and otherwise complicated relationships exist because they reflect people’s HEALTHY sexual expression. Given that we evolved as a sexually reproductive social species, this concept should be the easiest thing for us to understand. If people can’t understand it then they’re, I repeat, Just. Fucking. Stupid.
Yeah, you don’t get involved.
DO NOTHING, NOTHING..SLOWLY BACK AWAY, THEN TURN AND RUN..