Uh oh…[Update: Spencer Reed Responds]

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Chances are, you had a better weekend than gay porn boyfriends Spencer Reed and Phillip Aubrey.


I guess this means they won’t be updating their joint Twitter account anymore?

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Umm, get well soon, Spencer!

UPDATE: In a comment posted this afternoon, Spencer Reed responds:

It was not self defense and this was not the first time i have been attacked severely by Phillip. This was just the worst and finally landed me in the hospital and he was arrested. Clearly if he was acting in self defense i would have been arrested too. Making this public was a bit stupid on my end but i was hurt, lonely and laying in a hospital bed awaiting the gash in my arm to be stitched up. I pretty much only follow real friends and coworkers on twitter and they follow me back so it was a quirk one shot way of informing those who care about me. Thanks social networking yes its 2011. But the downside is now its out for the world to see. But i have nothing to hide hear and no shame. I have kept my lips sealed about the abuse and violence i have suffered and it was time to let it out. So think what you want and say what you want. But im not the one facing a possible felony charge of assault with a deadly weapon. I will heal psychically and emotionally. I am strong and will only come out stronger. Thank you to all who have expressed their love and support.

S.R.

UPDATE 2: Charges filed against Phillip Aubrey. See the court documents.

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49 Responses to “Uh oh…[Update: Spencer Reed Responds]”

  1. nhuixnhuix says:

    What is up with all these porn couples and physical violence?

  2. MMDD says:

    “I don’t want to make this public, so I’m putting it all over the Internet.” Gotcha!

    • Luke says:

      you didn’t read well. He said he didn’t want to make it MORE public than it already is, not that he didn’t want to make it public.

      • MMDD says:

        I read it perfectly fine. My point was, he put information out there on a network where millions of people can read it, then he says he doesn’t want to make it “more public” than it already is? Come on now.

  3. DPS says:

    I love how utterly insane almost every porn star is.

  4. PillowPRINCE says:

    He said “anymore public than I already have”. Congratulations, you just criticized a man who has been traumatized. I’m sure next time a loved one attacks him, he’ll remember to keep it to himself so he won’t regret it and say things like not wanting to make it more public than he already had.

  5. niles says:

    Hope he’s okay, sounds like attempted murder. Never liked the Philip character, Spencer could do much better.

  6. Rocky says:

    I am shocked folks feel they have the right to post negative comments about a great guy that has just been through a very traumatic experience. Domestic Violence is not a joke nor are it’s victims. Domestic Violence is not a problem limited to porn star and needs to addressed seriously by American society at large. I am heartened Spencer was able to reach out to his many friends and admirers for support during this difficult time. I also congratulate Spencer for sharing his experience. If it happened to him, it can happen to any of us.

    • Andrew says:

      Folks DO have the right to post comments (negative or positive) because he shared it with the world over the internet, thereby INVITING commentary.

      • Shane says:

        Rocky never said they didn’t have the right just that he was shocked by the negative comments and honestly I am too. I think one of the biggest downsides of the internet is that it allows people to be very rude and hateful without any fear of reprisal. People bashing Spencer should be ashamed of themselves. Just because they have the right to be negatives a$$holes doesn’t mean they should…

  7. Brando says:

    Which one is Spencer!!??

  8. daddycentaur says:

    I guess this also means that they will no longer be performing in porn scenes exclusively anymore. Jeez.

  9. sxg says:

    Hope he has a speedy recovery. And hopefully he makes a better effort of finding someone of better quality than this dumbass that I hope stays for his full sentence.

  10. tellyvision says:

    prolly mix of ‘roid rage and coming-down-off-coke rage … Phillip was up in Portland last weekend snorting anything white & powdery.

  11. Luke says:

    it seems that drama is always lurking behind porn stars couples!

    I must say i join the group of those that never liked Phillip Audrey, nice body (of course), the face and the expression never convinced me. Not too surprised to hear about the coke+roid mix… but these are just guesses, not knowing him personally.
    I’m sorry for Spencer Reed, that seemed really involved in the relationship and looks like a decent guy.

  12. Jay says:

    I do sympathize with the big man–it’s never great to have some little piece of gutter trash go mental and try to stab you….but, I do not understand why some of these porn stars think they can have it all–having a job where they have sex on camera AND then think they can have a special dating-type relationship off camera. It does not work, yet these little nitwits keep trying. They can have one or the other, but both really isn’t going to work. With all due respect to Spencer, if a porn star wants to date someone and see if a relationship develops, then that porn star needs to exit porn to do it. It really isn’t fair to ask the other person to be understanding about your job when you are slated to be the lead top in a leather sling orgy being filmed by Falcon (that is, if the other person is a non-porn guy….if you are dating another porn star, then all one has to ask is why the hell are you getting involved with someone who is as hot a mess as you are.). Just look around…has any porn star couple ever lasted, or a couple when one half is a porn star of any great level of noteriety?

    • Luke says:

      that depends on the people; for some couples it can work very well -it depends on the agreement within the couple, and in this specific case the fact they are both porn stars doesn’t seem to have played a role.

  13. Asenath says:

    This is just awful. Of course, he has my (strictly nonsectarian, vaguely agnostic) prayers for swift recovery.

  14. Mimi says:

    Domestic violence is NEVER ok. It doesnt matter if the people involved do porn. Just because Spencer is this big muscled hunk, doesnt mean that he hasnt been traumatized by what happened. Not only does he have to feel the betrayal and shock of someone whom he loves attacking him, he also has to mourn the loss of his relationship. I really do hope that Phillip can get some help with his issues and that he can come out of this a man that someone can love. I hope that Spencer can move past this as well. Just because you do porn doesnt mean you dont deserve love. I just feel so bad for both of them.

  15. Andrew says:

    OMG, seriously? Domestic violence is no joke but he actually twittered this to the world from his hospital bed? He was so traumatized by this event (which we are only hearing one side of) that his first thought was TWITTER???

    It may have very well been Philip Aubrey’s fault entirely, but we don’t actually know that yet. I mean, if Spencer was the aggressor he wouldn’t actually tweet “I attacked Philip tonight and he stabbed me in self defense.” AM I saying I think that’s what happened? No. I have no idea what happened, but jumping to his defense solely because he was the first to TWEET his side is ridiculous.

    Its also ridiculous to give up all of your private moments to celebrity culture by tweeting each and every personal incident and THEN wanting to end the conversation on “privacy” grounds (after you’ve conveniently gotten YOUR point out to the world but don’t want to answer any pesky follow up questions.)

    • manu says:

      You keep posting these messages trying to discredit him, I wonder why??? When you are pissed off , like he probably was- to be stabbed you might do things you regret later . I don’t see anything wrong with it being publicized personnally . People do post on Twitter from their laptops/cell phones whatever happened to them, if you don’t like it don’t read it but DON T ATTACK HIM. This is really disgusting and makes you a low life. How would you like it if you were stabbed and people would come up and say “Meeeeeh , not a problem , maybe he provoked it , anyway nobody wants to know about this shitbag so why the fuck is he bothering us” ? Oh yes , internet really reveals the ugliness within people. I just hope you get attacked too and get ridiculed for it . Good luck

      • Andrew says:

        Manu, you angry angry little man, I am not trying to discredit Spencer Reed. I question the wisdom of a society in which nothing seems real unless we post it to a form of social media. I question the wisdom of jumping to conclusions and onto a bandwagon before we have the facts. Am I blaming him for the attack? NO, I never did. I simply said that the masses should wait before proclaiming themselves judges and jury on a matter to which only the slightest facts are presently known. Questioning a celebrity on a board devoted to it is not “attacking him.” As a result of this appeal for caution, you have decided (on this and the other thread) that I am a low-life ugly shitbag scum who deserves to be attacked and ridiculed. You need to see a doctor and soon!

      • Andrew says:

        And another thing….

        If I am ever, God Forbid, stabbed and spat on, the LAST thing that would enter my mind would be “I’ve got to get this on TWITTER under my STAGE NAME!”

      • Andrew says:

        “Oh yes, internet really reveals the ugliness within people. I just hope you get attacked too and get ridiculed for it.”

        Irony, anyone?

  16. Spencer Reed says:

    It was not self defense and this was not the first time i have been attacked severely by Phillip. This was just the worst and finally landed me in the hospital and he was arrested. Clearly if he was acting in self defense i would have been arrested too. Making this public was a bit stupid on my end but i was hurt, lonely and laying in a hospital bed awaiting the gash in my arm to be stitched up. I pretty much only follow real friends and coworkers on twitter and they follow me back so it was a quirk one shot way of informing those who care about me. Thanks social networking yes its 2011. But the downside is now its out for the world to see. But i have nothing to hide hear and no shame. I have kept my lips sealed about the abuse and violence i have suffered and it was time to let it out. So think what you want and say what you want. But im not the one facing a possible felony charge of assault with a deadly weapon. I will heal psychically and emotionally. I am strong and will only come out stronger. Thank you to all who have expressed their love and support.

    S.R.

  17. Bernard A. Drabeck says:

    On occasion, I read comments from respondents on various sites, and frequently I am astonished by the meanness of those making negative observations. These spewers of invective must be wondrous creatures indeed–without blemish or faults of any kind, else they could not occupy such a high and lofty place from which they make their devastating pronouncements.
    I have news for them. All persons are flawed, period, and some more deeply than others. In many tragic cases, flaws are exacerbated by drink or drugs. Anyway, In this sorry story of physical abuse within a gay relationship, the victim of serious and bloody mistreatment suffered serious bodily and psychological harm. He deserves compassion and support. Period. Not conjecture or judgment. I think we get plenty of condemnation from lots of homophobes (religious and otherwise) on this planet. We should make every attempt not to be part of that evil fellowship. Ben

  18. AnsonSF says:

    I am glad that Spencer spoke out about what happened. If this can happen to Spencer, it could happen to anyone. He was very clearly in love, but has had ENOUGH. I really think Spencer is lucky to be alive. It may sound dramatic, but he could have been killed. It is good that he recognized this and has left the relationship. My only advice would be, DON’T GO BACK!

  19. Zack says:

    We see Spencer on various websites and see how dominant he is in his scenes. Perhaps that’s why people refuse to believe he’s a victim of domestic violence.
    But domestic violence can happen to anyone, no matter how “tough” they appear on camera.

  20. Joe says:

    I’m also a victim of abuse. I’m on the down-troden’s side under any circumstance. I don’t know what led up to your being abused but I’ve been under the same pressure from my ex. He’s without the most handsome man I’ve ever known and with a great personality. Everyone loves him. He introduced himself to me and we got started from that point. It led into a relationship and finally a living-in with each other. It didn’t take long for him to assert his being the “king of his castle”. I wasn’t even allowed to answer the phone. It came down to a showdown and I appeared to be aggressive to him and he beat me to the floor. When I came to my senses he’d left our house and I didn’t know or care where he’d gone. I packed my meager belongings and left right away. I found a friend who would help me to find a place on my own and there I’ve lived in peace and contentment for several months, until I learned he was looking for me. I finally confronted him and told him to leave me alone or I’d have the cops on his ass in a NY second. I vowed to him that that would be true. He stated his hate by seething through his teeth that he cursed the day he invited me into his apartment. I allowed that it was the dirtiest day of my life. He began again to beat me and throw me to the floor. He left me in a whimpering heap and stomped out of the doorway. This scene has never left my memory.

    • Asenath says:

      I’m sorry you had to experience this, but glad that you’ve decided to stay out of the unhealthy relationship. You’re talking to a counselor, I hope?

      Maybe this story can open up some dialogue about how underserved the GLBT community is in the domestic violence arena.

  21. Joe says:

    I didn’t mean to take away attention from Spencer. I know his situation is really bad and I recommend he did what I did, and that was to leave altogether, leaving nothing behind but the good memories, if any, and taking those memories with him. There’s always room to remember those bad things if he wants, but its always to remember the good times spent together. Good luck to you, Spencer. I hope you’ll find the happiness I’ve found away from your problem as I have.

  22. Joe says:

    You are the second porn star that has been on this site in the last couple of weeks. The other star was having the same problem. What is it that’s going on with you guys? Is it not possible to love one another? Do you take on a partner for the sake of having someone to relieve you, or do you take on a partner to just abuse? This seems to be having a stream effect. I ask the population: Do you want a porn star as a lover? or just an occasional partner for fun, of do you think you’re up to performing to a porn star’s reactions? You may think those questions are silly but you need to put yourself in Spencer’s position and then answer the questions. I’m fully sure I couldn’t put myself in that category and I know my limitations. I’ve fallen in love with characters on film but I certainly won’t put myself in their path to cause me destruction. I’ve learned a lot from film stars (and I secretly curse myself for calling them stars) because I hired a guy by way of a credit card to come to my home and give me what he thought would be a great time. It cost me plenty but I learned more. It is a sham, totally. Porn stars are just that – porn, nothing more. They have no emotion, do not care about you, have no ties with those who view their videos and couldn’t care less about how much money your spend on their videos, Just the money………..I learned!

  23. h Gordon says:

    I use to be amember of Kink.com Spencer Reed was in a match he broke a felloe actor finger, never as much as a I’m sorry. stated in the review I stated I would like to see him in a real toss up with a Marine, and see how he would like the beating. I was answered by the owner of the site he would not take threats from a viewer and would erase my comment, which he did. I feel sorry for Spencer, but have you watcvhed hte beating he gave his partner??? He has a temper as we all do. I not sticking up for Albury, but Spencer isn’t mr goody two shoes eather. Spencer I wish you well, show your softer side some times.

    • Asenath says:

      Are you actually equating a pre-negotiated act of BDSM, with safeguards, being supervised by a camera crew & staff to being stabbed? Because, no. . .that’s not how it works.

    • Luke says:

      I’m sorry but it’s a completely different matter. In a wrestling match (if you’re speaking about Naked Kombat) it’s always possible that some accident happens!

    • realitycheck says:

      Extraordinary, and revealing, comment that surpasses offensiveness standards even on boards that often have such crap spewed by anonymous gargoyles.

      You’re offended because a website, to which you subscribed and which specializes in portraying beatings, found your suggestion of a real beating to be outlandish. Good for the operators of the website. You’re sick. Truly. And to raise that sick bit of a critique in the context of a report that IN REAL LIFE Spencer had his arm sliced open! Wow. You should come with a warning label.

  24. Joe says:

    Asenath – I’ve not spoken with an advisor. I’m taking this on my own experience. Yet I’ve not overcome the use of an advisor because I still have bad dreams of him coming back. OK,you can call me weak in that area but I’m willing to challenge you. I’m pretty assertive but as we all know we can use some guidance, Yes, I agree that I’m not over my abuse by any means I can also say that I’m very comfortable in my present atmosphere. I don’t want to cause waves in my being demeaned. I just leave it up to Heaven, which a lot of people would say that is totally ridiculous. So be it, because that’s my decision. I don’t want to cause anyone any harm. I just want to feel better.

  25. manu says:

    I m gobsmacked by the horrible comments which imply that Spencer is lying/making this up/Provoked the attacked/ should have kept it private . I guess in 2011 people still haven’t figured that women are not the only victims of domestic violence and keep attacking men who report it on the grounds that they would be whiney/liars and/or lack virility . It’s disgusting . I wish Spencer a speedy recovery both psyhcological and physical .

    • Andrew says:

      No one is saying these things Manu! No one is saying or implying that that he IS lying DID make this up or DID provoke the attack. All I AM saying is let’s wait before deciding we know everything. You are READING this into these posts and you are at the point of hysteria.

      “I guess in 2011 people still haven’t figured that women are not the only victims of domestic violence and keep attacking men who report it on the grounds that they would be whiney/liars and/or lack virility.” Honestly, where is THAT coming from? No one in this thread even remotely hinted at anything like that!

      Of COURSE he should not keep it to himself and of COURSE he should make an eventual public statement (as should Phillip) but tweeting it from his hospital bed while he is still bleeding and having the world then assume they have all the facts is ridiculous.

  26. anon says:

    SR manages to irk ppl the wrong way.. maybe you should think about PEOPLE and not work them for a marketing campaign, just a suggestion… dont condone what was done but start looking at people as that than a porn/money making strategy… it comes across as you seeming superficial and devoid of emotion.

  27. Theo says:

    I’ve worked with Spencer in a kink.com shoot (he was my Dom), and he’s a really nice guy. With something like this, the psychological pain is worse than the physical, but I’m sure he’ll get through this and move on.

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