Jeremy Bilding: “I Am Retired”
Last Friday night, while attending a pre-Grabbys party in Chicago, Jeremy Bilding revealed to The Sword that he had retired. But! There’s a twist.
The bad news is that you won’t be seeing Jeremy Bilding’s dick inside of other men anymore. The good news is that you can still see it inside of women. While Jeremy will no longer shoot gay porn, he’ll continue working in straight porn, where he performs as Ryan Driller. Jeremy’s crossover success and his refusal to label himself as gay or straight has been gasoline on the fire for those opposed to “gay-for-pay” porn stars, but the controversy hasn’t hurt–in fact it likely helped–his career; he’s worked steadily on both sides of the industry since early 2008.
Jeremy was nice enough to satisfy one more gay man by answering some of my questions below, and if you’ve ever seen his blog, you know that he likes to go on, and on, and on, and on, and on. But that’s one of the things I’ve always loved about him (I also loved his penis and the fact that he never bottomed). So, goodbye forever, Jeremy, sort of!
The Sword: Why leave gay porn and stay in straight porn as opposed to leaving straight porn and staying in gay porn?
Jeremy Bilding: I just simply felt it was time. I had always said that I would stop doing it when the phone stopped ringing, when it wasn’t fun anymore, or when I just felt it was time. I never intended to be in the industry for a “long” time to begin with. Having stayed around for as long as I have is a total honor. About six months ago, as my straight persona was rapidly growing, I simply got that feeling that it was time. So, I filmed my last scenes, unbeknownst to my directors, producers and co-stars. My decision to stay on in straight porn really comes from my initial desire and intentions when I pursued porn. I just felt that it was time to really move on to the next chapter in my story and focus on that side of the industry at this time.
Gay porn pays men more than straight porn does, so how will this affect your income?
Absolutely it will affect my income. But, I’m a simple man; as long as I can make my bills and have a place to call home, I’m a happy man. That being said, being a performer in porn, on either side, doesn’t particularly make you a grip of money.
Who were some of your favorite scene partners?
Genuinely, this is one of the hardest questions to answer. I’ve had so many great scene partners, that were all so drastically different, that it’s hard to even compare to “best” any of them. But, my most memorable scene partners were:
Patrick Rouge- My first full sex scene partner, and really my first gay experience.
Jake Cruise- The man who was so welcoming and who mentored and pushed me to do better in the industry.
Blake Riley- We just had great chemistry.
Adam Killian- Who really pushed and taught me so much about how to be a better performer.
Parker London- One of the easiest guys to work with in the industry.
Ben Bradley- I’m pretty sure he held a strawberry sucker to his asshole to prep and help me enjoy my first rimming scene.
Dylan Roberts- Who consistently scares guys about his bottoming experience with me.
Marcus Mojo- one of my best friends in the industry, whom I’ve worked with.
Dean Monroe- Besides his persona, you’ll see why later.
Chi Chi LaRue- Because, let’s be honest, she really molded the Jeremy that was out there; not to mention, if you’ve been on her sets, she is more a scene-partner in your scene than anyone on camera.
Will you still keep the Jeremy Bilding persona on Twitter and at events?
Of course I will be keeping my Jeremy Bilding persona. I’m not disappearing into oblivion. I’ve been dabbling and learning a great deal of production and directing, and am trying to transition on to that side of the industry. All I’ve stopped doing is performing as a “Porn Performer.” I’m picking back up my writing, and a couple other outlets where you may find Jeremy showing up. I’ll probably still be at events. And, you never know, I may be your PA, director or producer on future sets. Just, after my last seven scenes are released, you won’t see “Jeremy Bilding” in the cast credits anymore.
Does this mean you’re officially straight now?
The question that has “haunted” my entire career…
To be totally honest, I have never not been “officially straight.” Yes, I am straight. I always have been. I feel that I always will be, despite what many people will believe. I poorly skirted around that subject for the past three years, because I didn’t want to give any fans a specific quote to crush their fantasies.
I still encourage every one of my viewers to believe what they want about my sexuality and my persona; that’s the point of my scenes and that was the point to my career. Fantasize about me and my scenes as the personality and person you want me to be. I was never here to revolutionize sex and how you felt about your porn stars. I was here for you to release your desires and fantasies in a safe and comfortable setting for you. If I inspired any of you in any facet, that is sprinkles and cherries on top of it all.
I refuse to say or let anyone say that “I wanted to go out on top” or “I went out on top,” because that is absolutely not the case at all. I went out when it was time. Another performer, ironically, had stated that he was going to put together a “Class of 2011″ montage thing with a collaboration of performers. The irony, is that is exactly how I felt about my “retirement”–I graduated. It was time for me to make way for the incoming boys, and let them take over.
I cannot thank everyone enough who has been there throughout my time in front of the camera: T-Ball, my first fan and friend; Amy, one of the friendliest and greatest fans/friends and Den Moms we could ask for; Twitter friends “PornBiatch” and “Skekoa,” the two people who pushed me to be more than just a pretty face, and “ChrisM799,” who debated and respected so many heated topics amongst our industry with me; Cody Cummings, for teaching me how to pace myself and work the system a little; Chi Chi and Jake, for teaching me about the industry and how to really be a performer and not just some model; Tommy Stone and Laura, for showing me more of the industry than you’ll ever know you did; Ash Camerazzi, for being my partner in crime; Austin Wilde and Ryan Raz, for showing and playing with me as we figured out “How Do We Make This Happen (Patron)”; NextDoorStudios for really starting it all that fateful St. Patrick’s day week in 2008; and of course the fans–thank you for being you and for showing that you wanted me around.
Of course I have to thank every director I’ve ever worked with: Brian, Sunny, Stephen, Jake, Tracy, Jasun, Chi Chi, Doug, John, Jett, Chris, Mocha, Steve, mr. Pam, April and the others whose names I have briefly forgotten right now (asshole moment). I couldn’t have done it without you.
To every co-star I’ve worked with, thank you for being there for me.
To all the bloggers who have helped create and push me on your readers, thank you for everything there.
To Zach, who has always been there to support and defend me, I do consider you more of a friend than a “faceless” name in cyberspace. Thank you for all you’ve done, and will do for all of us in this industry.
Most importantly, to Howard Andrew, the best uncle anyone could have in this industry. I say uncle, because only your uncle would push you to do half the stuff we do, be there to bail us out when we need it, and none of us are afraid to go to for advice, or with our tails between our legs. Howard, your dedication and compassion for your boys is surpassed by no one else. From the moment I met you in NYC to when I called you that day to help me and rep me, and cater to my high-maintenance needs and demands. I am forever in your debt with my gratitude and loyalty in an attempt to be half the man you are to us all.
With that, I’ll cut myself off from rambling on anymore…and say that “I went out as a Top” (please read in the joke it’s meant to be) ;-)
Thank you, Jeremy.
See ya around! XXXOO
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